Spouse Counselling, one of the most poignant but often neglected parts of an assignment or relocation to a partner’s new employer. Out of personal experience and after one year of a weekend marriage, a decision had to be made. Does the family leave our loved domicile and personal as well as professional networks in Munich to join the partner in Berlin? Never has a move challenged me more and I have lived on three continents. It was new to me, I was a spouse who had to give up her career, shuffle the cards again, and find the strength for a big change.
It was a challenge for us, our two boys adjusting to new schools, making new friends and I was left “hanging” in nowhere land. No networks!! As a psychologist integrated into a holistic health institute and with a private practice in Munich, moving to Berlin was testing. The famous “Berliner Schnauze”, the rough tone broke my resilience, and also made me aware of the years it took me in Munich, as an American “working” mother, to establish myself professionally, make a name for myself … I realized; I was unhappy.
I began to hear my inner voice, identified my strengths and resources, had the insight and skills for a change process, and moved on. I became an entrepreneur and a “Relocation” specialist.
In retrospect, many years later, still in Berlin and loving it, I realize my new professional career fulfilled all my needs and offered an anchor. I want to empower spouses, predominantly women, so they do not need to struggle on their own. – By Ariane Almerood (Founder of IRC Relocation)